sex
What is sex? What is sex in the Christian context? I heard a radio show on the seminars for Song of Solomon ministries. From what I heard it sounds like a great conference. The book in the bible is a very erotic book, but actually blessed by God (see chapter 5). That got me to thinking about sex in life today. Most men think about sex pretty much every minute of every day. Most women don't. Men are very visual (thank you Victoria's Secret and Fredericks of Hollywood) and physical. Most women are very emotional. A couple can sit down and watch a somewhat romantic movie or a drama with a scene of some sort of lovemaking and the woman can be turned on. The man isn't. But the wife gets into any kind of lingerie and the husband will be turned on. If the wife will physically touch her man throughout the day, he will be turned on. I think the turned on part is knowing his wife is wanting to be intimate. Most men want sex more than their wives (I say most, not all). Most women don't think they are sexy. How do you take all of this, wrap it in a neat little marriage box, and make everyone's fantasy and dreams come true? Where is the plane to fantasy island when you need it?The first thing is communication. Good communication will keep most problems from happening. Did you know that if you tell your husband how you like to be touched during intimate times, he will touch you like that? Did you know that if you tell your wife you would like her to wear lingerie she will? If you have a fantasy or something new you want to try, you have to tell your spouse. And if you don't like the way they do something, you have to tell them. Personal space and time is definately needed away from your spouse. When Brandy I got married, every other weekend we would separate. She would go see her mom or family or I would go to my family's. The time away was a renewing time, and when we came back together it was the best of times. There was an email going around a few years ago; the truth about men. one of the items said "if you have to ask if it makes your butt big, your butt is just big." The last one was "yes I know I have to sleep on the couch because of this list, but men like that. it's like camping." Remember women, men love you for who you are. Whether you are big or small and in which parts of your body. We love you. Just love us back.
